Do As I Say

Today, let's dabble in some Self Awareness:
How many of us preach to our children, "Do As I Say, Not as I Do"
Do you find yourself ripping into your child for doing the exact same behaviors you do yourself. Then try to justify it with I'm an adult speech.

Try to take a moment and become aware of how you are acting around your children. Are your manners ok, do you follow the house rules, is your language appropriate at all times, Are you a reader, Are you generally on time or late to things, what are your eating habits. The question is are these things that you want your children to pick up on and one day pass on to their children or do you need to work on them as well. Children of all ages usually learn their behavior from somewhere. Most often from those closest to them.
WHAT ARE YOU TEACHING????

I love to hear comments: please post
Todd

PS: coming sometime in May, another parenting workshop. Stay tuned for more details.

Go Unplugged

UNPLUGGED!!!

To increase the happiness amongst your family - UNPLUG your life - turn off the computer, ipod, television, radio, video games or whatever it is your family is participating in independently.Spontaneously unplug and do a family activity together - Take a Hike, play a board game, work on a puzzle, work on your garden - whatever is enjoyable for your family as a whole. Just use this opportunity as a way to let your family know that your time spent together is valuable and important! Try this for an afternoon, then a day, then a weekend, then a month. Watch the togetherness and productivity grow
Happy unplugging,
Enjoy the weekend.

Todd

PS: copies of Three Step Parenting are selling fast, grab your copy now!!
http://threestepparenting.blogspot.com/

PPS: Post how you are going to go unplugged on the wall.

Happy Families

Hey,

After a weekend filled with sleepovers, gymnastics, science projects, girlscouts and my youngest turning 3, Im back at it and ready to give.

I recently submitted an article to Ezine articles and they just released it Friday. This article assist parents in creating routine and structure in the home in three simple steps.

After reading the article, parents will be able to identify a problem or situation that is happening in the home, create a solution for the problem and implement the new plan. Creating a Happier Home Enviornment.

Check out the link below for the full version of the article.

http://ezinearticles.com/?Three-Step-Parenting&id=6914989

Also help me to help others by passing this on..

Yours truely,
Todd

Only two days left

Today is a bright sun shiny day here in Garrison, NY. Hope your enjoying your weather.

While many of you may be enjoying a winter recess with your children, I'm putting the finishing touches on to bring you the best parenting workshop ever. With only two days left be sure to grab your spot for the workshop below.

http://threestepparenting.blogspot.com/p/parenting-from-theinside-out-take.html

This workshop is guaranteed to bring you all the necessary skills to be the best parent to your children.

Here are just a few of the many things that will be covered in the workshop.
Learn all about yourself and why you make the decisions you do.
Learn how to create routine and structure for any situation that arises.
as well as so much more.

PS: As a added bonus. Sign up at the link below and recieve as an added bonus 1 free teleconference after the seminar.

http://threestepparenting.blogspot.com/p/parenting-from-theinside-out-take.html

PPS: what are you waiting for!!

I look forward to seeing you on Saturday.

Todd

What happens in Public!

Hey (insert name here)

Today is Valentines day and after a great morning with the kids, I'm ready to rock.

One of the greatest parenting approaches that I see in use today is parents who are parenting for the best interest of their children. What do I mean by this. So many times in public I'll see parents correcting their children more out of embarrassment for themselves then the actions of thier children. Parents have a funny way of teaching their children not right and wrong, but don't embarrass.

When it comes to correcting children the approach should be two fold.

1. Focusing on teaching your child that their behavior is not acceptable. (not the child) with
consequence coming second. (consequence meaning a time out etc.)

2. To do what is in the best interest of your child, Not anyone else.

When it comes to young children and discipline, the closer to an incident that you can correct the behavior the more likely your child will be able to relate the action with the consequence.

I would love to hear your comments.
post below.

Todd

PS: If you havent alreay signed up for the parenting workshop on the 25th. Do so below. Spaces are filling up fast.

http://threestepparenting.blogspot.com/p/parenting-from-theinside-out-take.html

What are you waiting for sign up now!!

After a great sunny day here in NY I have Great News!!

I will be running a parenting workshop at the end of the month.

February 25th

In Garrison NY

9-12

During this 3 hour workshop parents can expect to learn:

Tested, proven parenting techniques

How to effectively break bad habits

Why children behave the way they do

How to yell less and communicate more

Why routine and structure are so important when it comes to raising a family

How to keep in mind the bigger picture of your children's future.

Who should attend?

Anyone who is eager to learn how to be a better caregiver to children,

whether you're a parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle, nanny or childcare provider.

For more information and to register

Click on the link below.

http://threestepparenting.blogspot.com/p/parenting-from-theinside-out-take.html

PS: As an added bonus, because parenting should not be a one person operation, sign up prior to February 13th, my birthday and your guest will attend for free.

What are you waiting for sign up now!!

The cost is cheaper than a babysitter for the night

Why is Parenting so Hard???

Why does parenting seem so hard to so many and so easy to others??

Parenting in itself is not a hard skill to learn. The issue is that parents are faced with so many other obligations, emotions and challenges in life besides parenting. Think of it this way. You go to work and for 8 hours, your job is to fulfill whatever your job is. Your focus should be one minded, completing the task at hand. Now if you returned home and for the next 8 hours your job was to parent it would not be so hard. This is not the case for most. For most arrive at home, take a deep breath, enter the house and begin where they left off from the morning. That might be finishing cooking meals, taking out the trash, doing laundry, completing homework, cleaning the kids rooms, trying to complete that assignment for the boss, reading the newspaper, trying to catch a quick workout, mowing the yard, touching up or beginning that house project, providing transportation (you get the point) and then comes the parenting.

Why am I telling you this? One, to let you know that you are not alone if you feel this way. So many parents I meet feel this way. The difference between a good parent and a great parent is the approach and attitude you take to handling this type of role in your life.

Try these quick thoughts to help you refocus yourself and embrace what parenting means to you.

1. Every adult needs time to themselves to do the things they enjoy. (whatever that means to you) I put this first because of how important it is and how so many push it aside. Sometimes putting yourself first, takes away any feelings of resentment.

2. Create a consistent routine and clear expectations within your home. The routine should be designed so that it allows all members within the home to flourish. (Not just what you as the parents thinks is best).

3. Spend time as a family as often as possible without any gadgets, cell phones vidio games etc. try an old fashion board game, trip to the local library, a local event or anything else. This atmosphere provides for non interupted (much needed) time with your children.

Post what works in your home for others to see.

Cheers,

Todd